Dear Future Husband, Please Don't Love Me Most

Dear Future Husband,

I want you to love me.

And I don't mean love like a feeling; I mean love like the actions every day, the little things that add up to so much more.

I want you to love me.

But I don't want you to love me most.

I don't want to be the most important person in your life.

I don't want you to talk to me more than anyone else.

I don't want to be what takes up the biggest part of your heart.

That role doesn't belong to me.

That role belongs to God.

I want you to know God more than you know me.

I want your relationship with God to be the #1 priority, not your relationship with me.

I want you to value God's counsel and opinion far more than you value mine.

If God asks you to do something, I want you to do it, regardless of whether it's something I think is right.

For any big decision that affects our family, you can bet that I will be on my knees getting my own answer from God. But I want you to trust your answer more than you trust mine. I want you to follow God, not me.

I want our marriage, our family, to have its best chance. I want us to have eternal happiness, more love than we can hold.

Which means that you can't love me most.

And I can't love you most.

But if we both love God with all that we have, our love will be better than it could ever be otherwise.